Wednesday, October 10, 2012

Reflections of Trying to be Everything to Everybody

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Stressful would be an understatement. Hectic is more like it.

Life has been going at a break neck pace lately and my own personal need to get things done, have people like me, and feel like a successful person has driven me to to a place where I just have thrown my hands up in the air in despair.

I can't be "everything" to everybody.

I said it.

Oh my goodness do I want to, but I just can't.

I'm 41 years old for heaven's sake, you would think that I wouldn't still struggle with this, but I do. I want people to like me. I like having the answers. I like getting things done. I love excellence and I love the chaos of ministry, but enough is enough.

I was struggling with this so much that yesterday I threw out this statement on Facebook.

I have to keep reminding myself that I can't be everything to everybody...I just have to keep being the best I can be for Him and Him alone. Which is not easy when you are a recovering "people pleaser".

Apparently I hit a nerve because there were a bunch of you talking about it.

I'm not alone...and neither are you!

I can't even tell you how long I've struggled with this. So, here I go again, when it hits and I try to be everything to everybody I have to go back to the Word and get my priorities straight.
For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ. 
Galatians 1:10 ESV
There it is, who am I trying to please?
or God?

Talk about a perspective shift, which is exactly what I needed. Today. Everyday.

I'm not going to make everyone happy, 
so why not shift my focus from Him.

What about you...
What do you do when you catch yourself trying to be everything to everybody?
How do you know that you've been focused on the wrong one for far too long?

I can't wait to hear from you!
~ Melissa

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